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To My Daughter’s Stepmom: You Weren’t What I Had In Mind.

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Most divorcees have hard feelings and when one or both decide to re-marry, it adds a layer of complication. A Texas blogger, Candice Curry found out her ex was getting remarried, she received the news as expected but what she said to her daughter’s stepmother, Ashley Parish, in the letter below isn’t the kind of angry speech expected by any lady being replaced.

Instead, it’s her acknowledgment that her initial fears couldn’t have been further from the truth.

To My Daughter’s Stepmom: You Weren’t What I Had In Mind.

 To my daughter’s stepmom:

I never wanted you here. You simply were never part of the plan. Growing up and dreaming of my family I never included you. The plan was for my family to include me, daddy, and our children, not you.

I doubt you ever wanted me in your life. I doubt you planned to mother a child that you didn’t give birth to. I can bet that your plan for your family included you, daddy and your children together, not me or my daughter. I bet that when you dreamed of becoming a mother, you thought it would be the day you gave birth and not the day you married your husband. I’m pretty sure you never planned on me being here.

But God has plans that far exceed our own. When my little family dissolved to form two families, I knew you would be coming.

To My Daughter’s Stepmom: You Weren’t What I Had In Mind.

In my mind you would be a terrible beast and my daughter would not want you to mother her at all, ever! I was hoping that you would be semi-unattractive and prayed my daughter wouldn’t look up to you. Her daddy would know that he was settling for second best. I did not want to face the fact that another woman would mother my child in my absence.

Then you arrived.

You weren’t what I had in mind. You were supposed to be hideous, remember? But you weren’t, you were beautiful. You were supposed to be a mean old hag, remember? But you weren’t, you were a sweet, young woman.

To My Daughter’s Stepmom: You Weren’t What I Had In Mind.

My plans were foiled.

I realized from the look on your face that meeting me was just as hard for you. My heart immediately softened. Dang your kind smile! I was planning on really hating you. Why were you ruining my plan?!

I wanted to resent you but you made it impossible, and I quickly grew thankful for you.

You’ve accepted our daughter from the very start and have unconditionally loved both her and her daddy, and that’s a true gift to all of us. You’ve included our daughter in everything you do and make her feel loved and accepted. You put her relationship with her daddy above yours, and only a brave and courageous woman knows how to do that with such grace.

To My Daughter’s Stepmom: You Weren’t What I Had In Mind.

I knew when her daddy and I decided to divorce and live in separate homes there would be times when she would need her mommy and I wouldn’t be there. I’m so thankful that you are there in my absence. I’m grateful that you have mercy on her teen years and never reject her. She needs a mommy at your house and you’ve done an amazing job being that for her.

You’ve respected my position as mom from the very start. I appreciate that you check with me when you question if you are making the right decision with her. I know our situation is rare. It’s not often that a mom and stepmom text to remind each other that they love and respect each other.

You are a gift.

To My Daughter’s Stepmom: You Weren’t What I Had In Mind.

Our daughter will grow up with more love than I could have ever imagined. It wasn’t her choice to have divorced parents, and even though I wouldn’t wish that on any child I am so thankful that she now has four parents who love and respect her and each other. She’s compassionate because of it, and understands that a failure in one area can turn into a blessing in another.

She’s excited to call you and tell you her stories when she’s at my house, and that makes my heart want to jump from my chest with joy. I fill with pride when you wrap your arms around me and squeeze for a genuine and loving hug each time we see each other.

I know what it looks like when a mother cannot accept her child’s stepmother in their life. Gratitude pours from me that we are able to do what is truly right for our daughter. Thank you for being mature enough and respectful enough to co-parent with me.

I promise to always respect your input for our daughter. I promise to never minimize the position you hold in her life or make you feel like you are not her mother. I promise to raise her to be grateful to have two strong and brave women in her life who have the courage to mother her together. I pray she is never in our situation — even though it is peaceful — but if she ever finds herself here, I promise to set an example for her of what co-parenting should look like.

Precious woman, you are a rare and beautiful gem. God bless you and I love you.

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Husband Plants 6000 Trees To Honor Late Wife – 15-Years-Later Photos Reveal True Motive

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Husband Plants 6000 Trees To Honor Late Wife – 15-Years-Later Photos Reveal True Motive

A loving husband spent years planting over 6000 trees to create this incredible heart-shaped meadow as a tribute to his late wife.

Winston Howes and his wife Janet got married in 1962. The couple were very much in love and simply inseparable.

After getting married, the couple, Winston and Janet, moved into a charming farmhouse on 112 acres in the English countryside.

Winston Howes and his beloved wife Janet

Winston Howes and his beloved wife Janet

Not long after, Janet gave birth to their son. The couple had it all, a beautiful family, a love like no other and a flourishing farm.

For thirty three years, they had the perfect life and a bond that most can only dream of. However, things changed. In 1995, at only 50 years old, Janet suddenly passed away from heart failure.

Howes was crushed to say the least. The love of his life was gone.

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To pay tribute to his late wife, Winston planted 6,000 oak saplings in a field near the home they had shared for decades.

Howes laid out the trees in a six-acre field but left a perfect heart shape in the middle – with the point facing in the direction of her childhood home.

To pay tribute to his late wife, Winston planted 6,000 trees to create a heart-shaped meadow

To pay tribute to his late wife, Winston planted 6,000 trees to create a heart-shaped meadow

“I came up with the idea of creating a heart in the clearing of the field after Janet died. I thought it was a great idea – it was a flash on inspiration – and I planted several thousand oak trees.” Howes said.

With time the trees blossomed into a mature meadow, a sacred and peaceful oasis where Winston and his son could visit on difficult days. Howes revealed, “Once it was completed we put seat in the field, overlooking the hill near where she used to live. I sometimes go down there, just to sit and think about things. It is a lovely and lasting tribute to her which will be here for years.”

The couple, Winston and Janet Howes

The couple, Winston and Janet Howes

“We planted large oak trees around the edge of the heart then decided to put a hedge around it too. The heart points towards Wotton Hill, where Janet is from. We plant daffodils in the middle that come up in the spring – it looks great. I go out there from time to time and sit in the seat I created.” He added.

For 17 years, Howes’s beautiful declaration of love remained hidden from the outside world until on day in 2012, a hot air balloonist Andy Collett spotted the incredible creation and took a photograph from the air.

With time the trees blossomed into a mature heart-shaped meadow, a sacred and peaceful oasis where Winston and his son could visit on difficult days.

With time the trees blossomed into a mature heart-shaped meadow, a sacred and peaceful oasis where Winston and his son could visit on difficult days.

Collett was so stunned when he discovered the symbol of love hidden among the trees. He said, “I have my own balloon and am quite a regular flyer – but this was the most amazing sight I have ever seen from the sky. It was a perfect heart hidden away from view – you would not know it was there. You can just imagine the love story.”




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86-Year-Old Willie Nelson Saves 70 Horses From The Slaughterhouse To Roam Free On His Ranch In Texas

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86-Year-Old Willie Nelson Saves 70 Horses From The Slaughterhouse To Roam Free On His Ranch In Texas

Country music legend 86-year-old Willie Nelson, is not only incredibly talented, he also has the kindest of hearts. This was proven yet again when he recently saved 70 horses from the slaughterhouse without second a thought.

The singer is usually on the road, but when he isn’t on tour, you can find him on his ranch, where his beloved horses reside, in the Texas Hill Country.

Recently, Willie Nelson rescued 70 horses just as they were about to be sent to the slaughterhouse and then to a glue factory. It’s a terrible fate for these beautiful and majestic animals, but luckily, Willie couldn’t see that happen, so he jumped in and saved the day.

Willie Nelson recently saved 70 horses from the slaughterhouse without second a thought.

Willie Nelson recently saved 70 horses from the slaughterhouse without second a thought.

The horses’ new home is Willie Nelson’s 700-acre property, known as “Luck Ranch”, located in Spicewood, 30 miles from Austin, in Texas hill country.

According to Willie Nelson, who will soon be turning eighty seven, the ranch represents his love of country music as well as his love for horses.

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With a ranch that big, the horses have tons of open space to wander and are treated like royalty.

According to The Epoch Times, Willie said, “My horses are probably the luckiest horses in the world. They get hand-fed twice a day, and they were just ready to go to slaughter is probably the last thing they remembered, so they’re happy horses.”

Willie’s love for the animals is well documented in many of his songs. A recent song by Willie Nelson, “Ride Me Back Home,” attests to his love for horses.

Additionally, in 2015, a video by Willie Nelson called “The Love of Horses” won the People’s Silver Telly Award. In the video, Nelson meets members of Habitat for Horses who were working to end the slaughter of horses by trying to get legislation passed.




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Young Girl With Autoimmune Disease Creates Adorable Medi Teddy To Hide Scary IV Bags

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Young Girl With Autoimmune Disease Creates Adorable Medi Teddy To Hide Scary IV Bags

Generally speaking, many kids find hospitals a scary place to be in, and even worse having to look at the equipment lining the hospital rooms. But thanks to 12-year-old Ella Casano’s medi teddy, hospital runs are about to be a little less intimidating.

Ella was only seven years old when she was diagnosed with Idiopathic Thrombocytopenia Purpura (ITP), an autoimmune disease.  ITP occurs when the immune system mistakenly attacks platelets which results in bruising and easy bleeding. According to the Mayo Clinic, children typically develop ITP after a viral infection and recover shortly after, but Ella never did.

To combat a low platelet count, Ella has to be in hospital every 8 weeks to receive an IVIG infusion.

12-year-old Ella Casano created medi teddy to make hospital runs a little less intimidating.

12-year-old Ella Casano created medi teddy to make hospital runs a little less intimidating.

However, she just never got used to seeing all the hospital equipment. During one of her hospital visits, she got an idea. The tubes, needles and IV bags look a little scary, so she decided to design something to cover them up and make hospital runs less intimidating.

Ella’s invention, Medi Teddy, is an IV cover shaped like a teddy bear that features a mesh pouch on the back to carry medications and IVs. She used mesh material on the back so doctors can easily monitor medication administration.

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“When I had my first infusion, I was surprised and a little bit intimidated by the look of the amount of tubing and medical equipment on my IV pole. As I saw more and more children experiencing the same feelings, I became more interested in creating a friendlier experience for young IV patients, so I created Medi Teddy.” she wrote on her website.

Ella currently has a patent for the Medi Teddy and is already in the process of manufacturing the first 500 Medi Teddies.

Ella’s invention, Medi Teddy, is an IV cover shaped like a teddy bear that features a mesh pouch on the back to carry medications and IVs.

Ella’s invention, Medi Teddy, is an IV cover shaped like a teddy bear that features a mesh pouch on the back to carry medications and IVs.

Ella’s mom, Meg, revealed that her daughter was adamant Medi Teddy be a not-for-profit organization, so she could help other kids going through similar experiences.

If you would like to help Ella reach her goal, you can visit Ella’s GoFundMe.

We think Ella’s idea is genius and the fact that she is doing it to help other kids without profit is very inspirational!




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