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After 24 Different Homes, 33-Year-Old Is FINALLY Adopted!

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“After too many years in the foster care system and being placed in 24 different homes, Dale came into our home and became our family. However, when Dale moved in, so did his past hurts and experiences… his trauma and disappointments. It was met with our inadequacies as parents and our misguided attempts at knowing how to raise a teenager. In the midst of it all though, there was love. As a young boy, he was transferred into the care of other family members. During the time he was in their care he was subjected to the most horrifying forms of abuse on every level: physical, emotional, and sexual. Eventually Dale was placed into foster care and began the process over several years of being moved from home to home.

After living in 24 different foster homes he had simply had enough. He was 16 and requested to be placed into a transitional housing program where he could live on his own. It was in this time frame that I met Dale. I had no idea that this mannerly teen had any challenges and certainly was not prepared for the backstory I would come to learn through the course of that conversation.

My husband, Steve, and I were a young married couple, busy serving in full-time ministry and raising four little ones, all under the age of four, that we had adopted. I was not prepared for a casual conversation that started with me saying to Dale, ‘So tell me about yourself,’ to completely wreck me (in the best way) and to literally change the entire course of my life. But, I knew as I was sitting there listening to him that I would never be the same.

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There was, quite frankly, no way that I could go home to a huge house with fully furnished bedrooms that contained empty beds and simply be okay with this kid being on his own. So I went home and for the next two days I just cried. I knew the Lord was doing a work in my heart, stripping away preconceived ideas and notions of what I thought a family should be, calming fears I had about bringing a teenager into my home that had been so severely abused, placing a resolve so deep in my core that I knew, I KNEW, that although there would be challenges… we would also be so richly blessed for taking the risk.

Steve and I spent several weeks having Dale over for dinner, which progressed into him coming to stay with us on weekends. He was just one of us right from the start. I don’t know any other way to say it.  We just knew he belonged with us. We invited him to move in. There was no hesitation on his part and we rushed to his tiny apartment to pack up his few belongings. What an exciting time that was, also paired with a lot of adjustments and changes!

Initially Dale wanted to be home all the time to help with his new siblings. I started reminding him that he was a kid and needed to have some fun. I had to almost force him to go hang out with his friends.The first time he was late for curfew I reprimanded him, but was secretly pumped about it, because I knew he was beginning to feel more at home and to trust that this was all real.

I was stunned though, when he came down the stairs from his room with his bags packed. He thought that because he had gotten into trouble that we would want him to leave. That was quite the conversation, convincing him that the thought of him leaving had not even crossed my mind. I was floored that he had packed his bags and he was equally floored when I sent him upstairs to unpack.  There were so many lessons to be learned, but also lots of laughs and good times.  Sprinkled through it all were a tremendous amount of mistakes and extremely challenging seasons.

In the years that followed Dale would graduate high school, go off to college, come home from college, then leave again. He married his high school sweetheart and had two children with her. After several years Dale revealed that he was gay. Then came the divorce. Through all of this there were periods of unity within our family and there were years of estrangements on and off. Dale was misdiagnosed with a mental illness and given incorrect medications, which exacerbated the situation. Eventually he was correctly diagnosed with Complex PTSD and was able to enter an inpatient facility where he could get in-depth help. Dale has worked hard in his therapies and has made tremendous progress and life changes. During this time he met a young man named Justin, and they were eventually married in 2015. Through it all our goal was to love Dale unconditionally. It was always my hope and prayer that wherever he was, that deep down, he knew we loved him and would always be there for him.

Early last year, my daughter Emma reached out to Dale in an email. It had been a couple of years since we had heard from him. After some positive exchanges between the two of them, Dale felt ready to reach out. The next morning I woke up to the most sincere text message. I had been waiting and praying for this moment for quite some time. Within a few days we were able to schedule a marathon phone call and spend hours getting caught up. There are 3,000 miles between us, so we had to settle for a call. We have spent the last year enjoying spending as much time together as possible. New memories being made and laughs being shared.

Last July, Steve and I sat down with Dale and Justin. We began the adoption conversation with Dale, remembering how on the evening of his high school graduation so many years ago we had asked him if he would like to be adopted. We shared with Dale that this was something that had been hanging over our heads since that day. We also reminded him that he was our son regardless of a piece of paper. We wanted him to know that if he no longer desired to be adopted that we respected that decision fully.

However, if he did still want to be adopted that it would be our great joy to make that happen. Dale made it clear that he had still been waiting all of these years to be officially adopted.

In January we flew Dale and Justin to California to visit, make tons of memories, and to legally adopt Dale. It is with total gratitude that I reflect on our 17 year journey together. It is with full confidence that I can look to the past, present, and the future… knowing that God’s timing is perfect. It is with humility that I embrace my role, keenly aware that God entrusted and allowed me to be ‘Mom’ to such a special person. I am blessed beyond measure and extremely proud to announce that FINALLY, on January 29, 2018, we adopted our son, Dale Kiefer-Perrault.

At 33 years old and after a lifetime of waiting, Dale was able to take our name, and also able to replace his birth certificate. No longer will his parents be listed as ‘The State of Florida,’ but our names will be added instead.

It’s been a long road, but we are all so thankful for the journey. Every bit of it has been our privilege to navigate. To be clear… we brought nothing to the table other than our willingness to say ‘yes.’ Our contributions were our inadequacies, our failures, our misguided attempts as young parents to raise a teenager with trauma… we did not have a clue. But the key was love. There was always love. It has been messy and more difficult than I could have ever imagined… but it has also been SO worth it. The hurts and challenges easily take a back seat to the countless joys and victories. Adoption is a gift regardless of age.

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Fedex Driver Shovels Snow Off Woman’s Porch When He Learns Her Husband Recently Died

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Leigh Anne’s husband had just passed away after fighting cancer for seven months at the age of 42. This left her with three young children to raise on her own as a single mother and widow.

In the middle of winter, after a pretty nasty snowstorm, the cold had deflated her tyres. Leigh Anne tried putting air back in her tires but found it too hard to remove the cap on her tyres, meaning she could not be able to refill them. Luckily she noticed Brian making a nearby call.

Brian is a friendly local delivery driver with FedEx who she had seen around her neighborhood and had even delivered a few packages to Leigh Anne a couple of times before.

Brian was happy and kind enough to help out with her tyres. As the two were chatting, Brian got to learn of Leigh Anne’s heartbroken state and her husband’s recent death.

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Brian knew he had to do something to help her out. There was enough pain and stress in her life already, and there was just a small something he could do to make things a little better for her.

After helping Leigh Anne fix her car tyres and helping her back into her house, the FedEx driver quickly grabbed a shovel and got to work. He had noticed all the snow covering her porch and decided to help.

The doorbell camera captured Brian’s act of kindness, as he shovelled the snow off Leigh Anne’s porch and pathway to help her out. “Doorbell cameras don’t only catch people stealing packages,” Leigh Anne wrote on Facebook.

Brian’s kindness and thoughtfulness melted the hearts of thousands who saw the footage after it was shared on social media. God bless this man.

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Framed Photo Of Lord’s Prayer Stops Bullet Fired Into Home

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An elderly Kansas woman says it’s a miracle that she and her husband are alive after a bullet was fired into her home, all thanks to a framed photo of the Lord’s Prayer that saved them both.

Constance Effie said she had just sat down to watch some television in the living room of her Kansas City home when she heard an explosion-like sound. Her husband was also home at the time.

A framed photo of the Lord’s Prayer saved Effie and her husband

A framed photo of the Lord’s Prayer saved Effie and her husband

“All of a sudden ‘boom.’ I thought I was in a war zone because that was the loudest noise I ever heard,” Effie told WDAF.

The seventy year old woman said she then realized that someone had opened fire outside, leading to one of the bullets flying into her house. But instead of hitting her, the bullet hit a framed photo of the Lord’s Prayer that was hanging only two feet above her head.

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“We looked all around and didn’t see a hole anywhere. I thought, ‘Look, that picture, the glass is all broken,'” she said. “It hit [the picture] and fell down behind [the couch]. But if it didn’t have the metal, it probably would’ve come on in and hit one of us.”

Effie believes God blocked the bullet from hurting them. She said the next day she had to be taken to the hospital where doctors told her that she had suffered a minor heart attack because of the scary ordeal.

Effie believes God blocked the bullet from hurting them.

Effie believes God blocked the bullet from hurting them.

“I was afraid after the near-death incident. I kept thinking I don’t want any more shooting,” Effie said, adding she constantly hears gunshots in her neighborhood. “The doctors said it looked like it was a stress heart attack but that it was a small one.”

“We’re lucky to be alive, and we’re happy,” Effie said. “We just hope and pray they understand not to do this anymore.”

Kansas City police are still investigating the shooting and have not identified the suspects yet.

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Kind-Hearted Mom Packs Son Extra Lunch To Feed Classmate In Need

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Kind-Hearted Mom Packs Son Extra Lunch To Feed Classmate In Need

One day as Josette Duran was packing her son lunch, he asked her to add an extra snack for his school lunch. The mom was quite surprised as she thought she was packing him plenty of food for the day.

However, when he explained why he wanted the extra snack, she was heartbroken. The extra snack he was asking for was for a boy at his school. Dylan explained to his mother how the young boy only brought a fruit cup for lunch every single day and he didn’t think he had enough cash to buy lunch at the school, either.

 One day as Josette Duran was packing her son lunch, he asked her to add an extra snack for his school lunch.


One day as Josette Duran was packing her son lunch, he asked her to add an extra snack for his school lunch.

Josette who lives in Albuquerque, New Mexico, recalled how the conversation with her son went.

Dylan: Mama can you make me TWO lunches today?

Mom: Are you not getting full, boo?

Dylan: Yes Mom, it’s for this boy. He only eats a fruit cup for lunch. Can you make him lunch too? I don’t think he has lunch money.

Dylan had noticed the boy sitting alone every single lunchtime with just a fruit cup for his lunch and had felt the need to help him the only way he knew how. Instead of adding just extra snack as Dylan had requested, Josette began making two school lunches every day. One for Dylan and one for his new friend.

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Later on she found out that the young boy’s mother had recently lost her job. Josette said that the story hit close to her heart as only a few years ago, she and Dylan had been in a similar position. So she knew that she had to help.

“A few years ago, me and my son were homeless. I was living in my car and I was washing him in bathrooms. And we didn’t have food.” Josette revealed.

Instead of adding just extra snack as Dylan had requested, Josette began making two school lunches every day. One for Dylan and one for his new friend.

Instead of adding just extra snack as Dylan had requested, Josette began making two school lunches every day. One for Dylan and one for his new friend.

Josette had already gotten used to her routine of packing two lunches for Dylan when she received a phone call from the school principal asking her to go to the school. It turned out that the little boy’s mother had figured out what Josette had been doing and wanted to express her gratitude.

Watch the video below to see the result of Josette’s actions. Be sure to have the tissues close by:

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