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I Adopted a Stranger’s Baby After Breast Cancer Took Her Mom’s Life.

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I Adopted a Stranger's Baby After Breast Cancer Took Her Mom's Life.

Growing up in Tipp City, a tiny town in Ohio, I had big plans. When I was younger, I worked a lot with kids and after-school reading programs, so I thought I would go into some sort of social work or that I would help at-risk kids and teens. I loved giving them the support that they might not get other places. But at 18, I met my husband Steve, and we got married a year later. By the time I was 28, we had three kids—Christian, Caleb and Cara, and I was going to college when I wasn’t taking care of them, just trying to finish.

One day in 2002, when we were visiting my mom, her neighbor approached me while I was playing with my kids in the yard. She told me she’d been helping a woman who was only 23 and battling stage IV breast cancer and asked if I knew anybody who would want the woman’s baby daughter. A midwife by trade, she was a compassionate person and knew that working with at-risk populations had always been a passion of mine, so she thought I might have some ideas for how to help.

I Adopted a Stranger's Baby After Breast Cancer Took Her Mom's Life.

I spent three days praying on it. My husband and I hadn’t talked about adopting—we already had three little kids, so we thought we were done—but after four nights of tossing and turning, I told him, “I think we’re supposed to adopt this baby.” I asked if he’d be open to at least speaking with Alexis Preston, the woman who needed help.

That weekend we went to the Meijer megastore in Dayton where Alexis wanted to meet. Thin as a stick and dressed up in a wig, she said to us, “I’m looking for someone to take my baby. I just want to know that you’re going to love her.” My husband just melted right there; he would have done anything for her because she was so sick with no support.

During the next three weeks, I visited with Alexis and her baby at Children’s Services a few times, and I saw that Alexis was all about fighting to live. She wasn’t going into this arrangement thinking, I’m finding my daughter a home because I’m going to die. It was more like, I’m finding her a good home because I’m going to get better, but I need help taking care of her now. She was a fighter.

The baby—also named Alexis, but we call her Lexi—was 10 months old when we took full custody of her in June of 2002. Over the next year, the three kids and I sometimes took Lexi to see her mom at chemotherapy or to get groceries. We’d bring Alexis medicine and we’d talk about her dreams for the future. (“I should be on American Idol,” she’d say, always spunky and proud.) The last time I saw her—bald, 80 pounds, and only 24—I just sobbed. She died a week later.

I Adopted a Stranger's Baby After Breast Cancer Took Her Mom's Life.

It was hard to adjust at first, but life with Lexi became second nature. All of our family, but especially Steve and I, just have this immense love for her. To us, she’s no different than our biological kids. We tell Lexi how hard her mom fought and how much like her she is. Now, 10 years later, Lexi is 15 and Cara is 16 and they act like twins.

The February after Alexis passed, Steve and I planned a small getaway for our anniversary. I was taking a shower to get ready for our trip and thought, I should probably do a breast self-exam. Alexis was super young. And I felt this hard lump. When the doctors told me it was cancer, I was screaming in my head, What? My kids are going to lose their mother? And Lexi’s going to lose two moms? I’m always the strong one, but then, I was not so strong.

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I was mad, I was scared, and I didn’t want to talk about it. Once I started losing my hair, I wore a wig everywhere, because I didn’t want anyone to know. I didn’t want anyone to feel sorry for my kids. But my husband was a rock, and I was so lucky my cancer responded to treatment. Had it not been for Lexi’s mom, I would never have done that self-exam. She saved my life.

Fast forward to today, and Lexi has to get checked, because her mom was only 22 when she was diagnosed. That was a really hard conversation with the oncologist; both Cara and Lexi thought they had cancer when they started getting breast buds. We had really candid conversations with them, because at the end of the day, no matter what, every girl just wants to know that she will live.

I Adopted a Stranger's Baby After Breast Cancer Took Her Mom's Life.

With my social work background, I always knew I wanted to help women cope with breast cancer. Alexis rode home from her mastectomy on a bus. She never, not one time, had someone go to treatment with her until she met us—that’s why she wouldn’t go half the time. In 2007 I met Tracie Martin at a young survivors conference. I joined the small nonprofit she started, called Pink Ribbon Girls, and later became President/CEO.

Together with Tracie, I helped to write a grant that’s given us the funds to serve healthy meals and offer house cleaning to breast cancer patients. Those funds also go towards transportation so that other women don’t have to endure those long solo bus rides like Alexis did, and so they can know they’re supported, even if only by strangers.

We come from all different backgrounds, all different socioeconomics, and everybody really wants the same thing: You want to live and you want your kids to be okay. I think back on Lexi’s mom, and I know it could’ve very easily been me.

Story: WomansDay.com

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Fedex Driver Shovels Snow Off Woman’s Porch When He Learns Her Husband Recently Died

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Leigh Anne’s husband had just passed away after fighting cancer for seven months at the age of 42. This left her with three young children to raise on her own as a single mother and widow.

In the middle of winter, after a pretty nasty snowstorm, the cold had deflated her tyres. Leigh Anne tried putting air back in her tires but found it too hard to remove the cap on her tyres, meaning she could not be able to refill them. Luckily she noticed Brian making a nearby call.

Brian is a friendly local delivery driver with FedEx who she had seen around her neighborhood and had even delivered a few packages to Leigh Anne a couple of times before.

Brian was happy and kind enough to help out with her tyres. As the two were chatting, Brian got to learn of Leigh Anne’s heartbroken state and her husband’s recent death.

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Brian knew he had to do something to help her out. There was enough pain and stress in her life already, and there was just a small something he could do to make things a little better for her.

After helping Leigh Anne fix her car tyres and helping her back into her house, the FedEx driver quickly grabbed a shovel and got to work. He had noticed all the snow covering her porch and decided to help.

The doorbell camera captured Brian’s act of kindness, as he shovelled the snow off Leigh Anne’s porch and pathway to help her out. “Doorbell cameras don’t only catch people stealing packages,” Leigh Anne wrote on Facebook.

Brian’s kindness and thoughtfulness melted the hearts of thousands who saw the footage after it was shared on social media. God bless this man.

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Framed Photo Of Lord’s Prayer Stops Bullet Fired Into Home

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An elderly Kansas woman says it’s a miracle that she and her husband are alive after a bullet was fired into her home, all thanks to a framed photo of the Lord’s Prayer that saved them both.

Constance Effie said she had just sat down to watch some television in the living room of her Kansas City home when she heard an explosion-like sound. Her husband was also home at the time.

A framed photo of the Lord’s Prayer saved Effie and her husband

A framed photo of the Lord’s Prayer saved Effie and her husband

“All of a sudden ‘boom.’ I thought I was in a war zone because that was the loudest noise I ever heard,” Effie told WDAF.

The seventy year old woman said she then realized that someone had opened fire outside, leading to one of the bullets flying into her house. But instead of hitting her, the bullet hit a framed photo of the Lord’s Prayer that was hanging only two feet above her head.

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“We looked all around and didn’t see a hole anywhere. I thought, ‘Look, that picture, the glass is all broken,'” she said. “It hit [the picture] and fell down behind [the couch]. But if it didn’t have the metal, it probably would’ve come on in and hit one of us.”

Effie believes God blocked the bullet from hurting them. She said the next day she had to be taken to the hospital where doctors told her that she had suffered a minor heart attack because of the scary ordeal.

Effie believes God blocked the bullet from hurting them.

Effie believes God blocked the bullet from hurting them.

“I was afraid after the near-death incident. I kept thinking I don’t want any more shooting,” Effie said, adding she constantly hears gunshots in her neighborhood. “The doctors said it looked like it was a stress heart attack but that it was a small one.”

“We’re lucky to be alive, and we’re happy,” Effie said. “We just hope and pray they understand not to do this anymore.”

Kansas City police are still investigating the shooting and have not identified the suspects yet.

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Kind-Hearted Mom Packs Son Extra Lunch To Feed Classmate In Need

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Kind-Hearted Mom Packs Son Extra Lunch To Feed Classmate In Need

One day as Josette Duran was packing her son lunch, he asked her to add an extra snack for his school lunch. The mom was quite surprised as she thought she was packing him plenty of food for the day.

However, when he explained why he wanted the extra snack, she was heartbroken. The extra snack he was asking for was for a boy at his school. Dylan explained to his mother how the young boy only brought a fruit cup for lunch every single day and he didn’t think he had enough cash to buy lunch at the school, either.

 One day as Josette Duran was packing her son lunch, he asked her to add an extra snack for his school lunch.


One day as Josette Duran was packing her son lunch, he asked her to add an extra snack for his school lunch.

Josette who lives in Albuquerque, New Mexico, recalled how the conversation with her son went.

Dylan: Mama can you make me TWO lunches today?

Mom: Are you not getting full, boo?

Dylan: Yes Mom, it’s for this boy. He only eats a fruit cup for lunch. Can you make him lunch too? I don’t think he has lunch money.

Dylan had noticed the boy sitting alone every single lunchtime with just a fruit cup for his lunch and had felt the need to help him the only way he knew how. Instead of adding just extra snack as Dylan had requested, Josette began making two school lunches every day. One for Dylan and one for his new friend.

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Later on she found out that the young boy’s mother had recently lost her job. Josette said that the story hit close to her heart as only a few years ago, she and Dylan had been in a similar position. So she knew that she had to help.

“A few years ago, me and my son were homeless. I was living in my car and I was washing him in bathrooms. And we didn’t have food.” Josette revealed.

Instead of adding just extra snack as Dylan had requested, Josette began making two school lunches every day. One for Dylan and one for his new friend.

Instead of adding just extra snack as Dylan had requested, Josette began making two school lunches every day. One for Dylan and one for his new friend.

Josette had already gotten used to her routine of packing two lunches for Dylan when she received a phone call from the school principal asking her to go to the school. It turned out that the little boy’s mother had figured out what Josette had been doing and wanted to express her gratitude.

Watch the video below to see the result of Josette’s actions. Be sure to have the tissues close by:

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