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15 Signs You and Your Significant Other May Need Couples Therapy.

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1. You stop talking to each other
Most problems come from a lack of communication and misunderstanding. Communication breakdowns are hard to bounce back from, but a therapist can intervene and teach you both the right way to speak to each other.

2. Constant bickering
Negative communication like daily arguments over trivial things or devolving into insults and character shaming. Such behavior will make a spouse feel judged, insecure, or unwanted, effectively wearing down their will to stay together.

3. Fear of “rocking the boat”
Instead of being forthcoming with feelings, we swallow them because we just can’t handle the discomfort of bringing things up. Be it something big like money, or something that may seem trivial like doing the dishes, a marriage therapist can teach a couple how to air their grievances in a healthy way.

4. Withholding affection to punish
This includes the silent treatment, refusing hand holding, and or withholding sex. One partner will get angry about something and completely cut their spouse off as a means of punishing them for their behavior. A well-balanced couple doesn’t feel the need to punish each other as a parent would a child.

5. Feeling as though you’re sleeping with the enemy
If you feel like you are becoming adversaries as opposed to being partners, seek out couple’s counseling for help.

6. Secret keeping
Every person is allowed some modicum of privacy, but if you find you or your spouse are actively hiding things from each other that becomes a problem.

7. An affair sounds appealing
Have you either thought about or have actively sought out an affair? The best tactic is to seek help and handle those feelings BEFORE acting on them. If the deed is already done, marriage counseling may still be a chance to pick up the pieces or guide you both to a means of moving on.

8. Financial infidelity
This can come in the form of needing full control over a couple’s money, shutting a spouse out of financial decisions, or even hiding some out-of-control spending habits. If this is you, or you are married to somebody with any of these behaviors, seek help. Finances can be more damaging than a bout of cheating.

9. Thinking things would be perfect if only your spouse would just change
The only person you have the power to change is yourself. By attempting to change your spouse you create resentment and dissonance in your relationship. A marriage therapist can help you both figure out exactly what you want and how to relate to each other.

10. You’ve become roommates
There is a connection that has gone missing, communication has broken down, and you both are essentially living lives separate from each other. This isn’t just having separate hobbies. You have stopped being intimate, having conversations, and are just going through a rhythm to get through your day together.

11. A dramatic shift in your sex life
A couple’s sexual relationship ebbs and flows over time. Some periods are hot and heavy while others are less active; this is normal. If you have gone from having regular sexual encounters to zero or are having a severe uptick in activity (to the point of excess) this could indicate a problem.

12. Molehills become mountains
Every single person has funny little things that just drive him or her crazy to the point that arguments constantly break out over them. This could be their spouse leaving clothes next to the laundry basket rather than in it, not replacing the milk when it runs out, or not loading the dishwasher “correctly.” Relationship counseling can help suss out what the real problem may be and teach a couple how to handle it.

13. Unresolved issues
These are the problems that linger on for months with no solution to be found. To a couple, it feels like these problems will just forever be a part of their relationship ‘til death parts them.

Counseling may be the answer. It may just take a fresh pair of eyes and ears to find the root of the problem and resolve it.

14. Frustration has become apathy
When an issue lingers in a relationship long enough it’s easy for a person to give up or just stop caring. Eventually the fight has gone on so long over the same things that you feel like it’s just not worth the effort anymore. Apathy is the outward manifestation that you just don’t value your marriage any more.

15. Holding a grudge
Your marriage had hit a major event at some point. It may have been an affair, a miscarriage, or some irresponsible behavior. You both claimed to have forgiven each other and moved on, but the issue keeps coming up in arguments over and over again or you still look at your spouse, silently blaming them weeks, months, or years after the problem occurred.

It’s worth it to seek out a family therapist to air the issue to and work towards a real resolution. Don’t wait too long to find help. Letting issues fester without resolution does neither spouse any good, so seek help before your relationship is on the brink.

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Young Girls Who Met In Hospital Reunite For “Survivors” Photo-shoot

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Young Girls Who Met In Hospital Reunite For “Survivors” Photo-shoot

Two years after beating cancer, four young girls reunited for a celebratory photoshoot, and the pictures are all sorts of incredible. McKinley, Chloe, Ava, and Lauren, were all diagnosed with cancer and were treated at Johns Hopkins All Children’s Hospital in St. Petersburg.

The little girls all had different types of cancer, but they all met when being treated in the same ward. The four instantly became very close friends and spent as much time with each other as they could while going through treatments.

Lauren’s mom, Shawna Glynn, said, “She’s three years old and doesn’t have any hair, but all her friends in the hospital look the same way. So it kind of gave her some normality.”

“It was just always a breath of fresh air to see a familiar face, and to know that she wasn’t alone in there.” Another mom added.

The girls’ close relationship also helped their parents cope a little better, dealing with such a trying period in not just their kids’ lives, but theirs as well.

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“From the standpoint of a mom, too, having other moms to relate to has been phenomenal. Just to have other people going through it at the same time as us.” Karen Moore, McKinley’s mom said.

“It gives me chills, it makes me want to cry. I mean, I love these kids as if they were my own, for sure. They’re awesome.” Paige Ward, a nurse at Johns Hopkins who took care of all the girls explained.

They may be just little girls, but the hurdles they have been able to overcome at such tender ages are incredibly amazing. What’s even more special about their story, is the beautiful friendship they have all been able to build while fighting such tough battles.

The girls have all beaten cancer, with Lauren finishing her treatment not too long ago and set to start kindergarten soon. The girls are also happy that they now have their long hair back as well and are planning to have their reunions every year.

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Childhood Friends Who Met One Day After Being Born Get Married 30 Years Later

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Childhood Friends Who Met One Day After Being Born Get Married 30 Years Later

Jemma and Daniel Langley were born just a day apart in the same hospital and met for the first time just a day after being born, now the two are newly-wed and expecting a child of their own. Their amazing love story is unlike many you’ve heard of.

After growing up as childhood friends, a decade after their first meeting, the two lost touch only to reconnect 20 years later. Speaking to MailOnline, Jemma explained, “It began when Daniel’s mother Janine and my mother Keryn both went into labor and were placed in beds right next to each other at the William Angliss Hospital, in Upper Ferntree Gully, Australia, in April 1989.

Jemma and Daniel Langley were born just a day apart in the same hospital and met for the first time just a day after being born

Jemma and Daniel Langley were born just a day apart in the same hospital and met for the first time just a day after being born

Not long after, on April 14, my mother was taken away to the birthing room to give birth to me. After I was born the midwife took me in to meet Janine, so apart from my parents, doctor and midwives she was one of the first people I met.”

After delivering their newborns, Janine and Keryn were brought back together and their babies finally met each other, not knowing that would only be the start of an amazing bond between them until they got separated 10 years later.

They kept in touch and caught up quite a bit until they were about nine or ten, when they lost touch.

They kept in touch and caught up quite a bit until they were about nine or ten, when they lost touch.

“With my parents living in Emerald and Daniel’s living in Monbulk, they kept in touch and caught up quite a bit until we were about nine or ten, when they lost touch.” Jemma said.

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Incredibly enough, 24 years later, while randomly scrolling through Instagram account, Jemma came across a hairdressing page which surprisingly belonged to Daniel’s sister Rhiannon. She said, “I started following her (Rhiannon) and not long after decided to track Daniel down on Facebook. We started chatting for a while over Messenger.

I booked an appointment with Rhiannon to have my hair colored. Rhiannon’s salon is set up at Janine’s house which is also where both her and Daniel were living. So when I was in the middle of my appointment, Daniel turned up and popped in to say hello. He went in for a kiss on the cheek, but ended up with hair dye on his hat. We both laughed but I think he was a little upset.”

“From then we couldn’t get enough of seeing each other. On Mother’s Day in 2014 we officially became a couple. New Year’s Eve in 2016 my friend and I decided to surprise our partners with a cute picnic dinner at the Royal Botanic Gardens in Melbourne.

Little did I know Daniel had a surprise of his own and proposed to me. I was so shocked… I said yes and couldn’t wipe the smile off my face.” Jemma added.

Now, 30 years after their first meeting, the couple are married and have a baby of their own on the way.

Now, 30 years after their first meeting, the couple are married and have a baby of their own on the way.

Now, 30 years after their first meeting, the couple are married and have a baby of their own on the way. How incredible is their love story!

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Boy With Down’s Syndrome Helps Take Care Of His 3 Disabled Brothers

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After he was adopted by American parents, Jeremy and Nicole, Simon Clark moved from his home country of Bulgaria to stay with his new family. Within a short period of time, Simon was already helping out with the house chores and helping with taking care of his brothers Alex, David and Jon who are disabled.

Simon who is only 4 years helps feed and dress his brothers and even tucks them into bed. His brother, Alex, has Down Syndrome while his other brothers, David and Jon have cerebral palsy. Aside from the fact that Simon is very young, it is even more amazing to know that he does all that while he has Down’s syndrome himself.

Within a short period of time, Simon was already helping out with the house chores and helping with taking care of his brothers Alex and David who are disabled.

Within a short period of time, Simon was already helping out with the house chores and helping with taking care of his brothers Alex and David who are disabled.

His parents say when Simon is not helping his brothers, he likes to play in the garden and also enjoys football.

Jeremy said, “He’s enjoyed the company of his brothers quite a bit, he jumped right in and started playing and taking care of his brothers. Since Simon has joined us, the days have become longer, they start a bit earlier and end a bit later and there’s more time to be a good parent. Simon loves to be with people.”

Simon who is only 4 years helps feed and dress his brothers and even tucks them into bed.

Simon who is only 4 years helps feed and dress his brothers and even tucks them into bed.

“While he can speak Bulgarian, he still can’t speak English, but out of our four children he is the most verbal, so he’ll say ‘mum’ and ‘dad’. He’s still learning but we’re confident that he’ll become verbal, while his brothers not so much.” He added.

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“Raising four kids with special needs requires a lot of work and there are many things you have to do. The key is finding joy throughout each of those activities. Taking care of these children can be a great experience. They are always excited and full of joy. They get really happy over simple things that other kids could sometimes take for granted.”

Aside from the fact that Simon is very young, it is even more amazing to know that he does all that while he has Down's syndrome himself.

Aside from the fact that Simon is very young, it is even more amazing to know that he does all that while he has Down’s syndrome himself.

Simon’s mom, Nicole, was a nurse for 10 years before she decided to become a stay-at-home so she could better look after her kids. She is now able to pay attention to all their daily needs and is happy watching Simon help out.

His parents say when Simon is not helping his brothers, he likes to play in the garden and also enjoys football.

His parents say when Simon is not helping his brothers, he likes to play in the garden and also enjoys football.

Simon is the fourth Bulgarian child the couple has adopted and they say it’s a truly fulfilling experience to give these children a good start in life. They’re hoping that Simon, who was originally named Zadock, will help his brothers progress.

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