Connect with us

Uplifting

15 Signs You and Your Significant Other May Need Couples Therapy.

Published

on

1. You stop talking to each other
Most problems come from a lack of communication and misunderstanding. Communication breakdowns are hard to bounce back from, but a therapist can intervene and teach you both the right way to speak to each other.

2. Constant bickering
Negative communication like daily arguments over trivial things or devolving into insults and character shaming. Such behavior will make a spouse feel judged, insecure, or unwanted, effectively wearing down their will to stay together.

3. Fear of “rocking the boat”
Instead of being forthcoming with feelings, we swallow them because we just can’t handle the discomfort of bringing things up. Be it something big like money, or something that may seem trivial like doing the dishes, a marriage therapist can teach a couple how to air their grievances in a healthy way.

4. Withholding affection to punish
This includes the silent treatment, refusing hand holding, and or withholding sex. One partner will get angry about something and completely cut their spouse off as a means of punishing them for their behavior. A well-balanced couple doesn’t feel the need to punish each other as a parent would a child.

5. Feeling as though you’re sleeping with the enemy
If you feel like you are becoming adversaries as opposed to being partners, seek out couple’s counseling for help.

6. Secret keeping
Every person is allowed some modicum of privacy, but if you find you or your spouse are actively hiding things from each other that becomes a problem.

7. An affair sounds appealing
Have you either thought about or have actively sought out an affair? The best tactic is to seek help and handle those feelings BEFORE acting on them. If the deed is already done, marriage counseling may still be a chance to pick up the pieces or guide you both to a means of moving on.

8. Financial infidelity
This can come in the form of needing full control over a couple’s money, shutting a spouse out of financial decisions, or even hiding some out-of-control spending habits. If this is you, or you are married to somebody with any of these behaviors, seek help. Finances can be more damaging than a bout of cheating.

9. Thinking things would be perfect if only your spouse would just change
The only person you have the power to change is yourself. By attempting to change your spouse you create resentment and dissonance in your relationship. A marriage therapist can help you both figure out exactly what you want and how to relate to each other.

10. You’ve become roommates
There is a connection that has gone missing, communication has broken down, and you both are essentially living lives separate from each other. This isn’t just having separate hobbies. You have stopped being intimate, having conversations, and are just going through a rhythm to get through your day together.

11. A dramatic shift in your sex life
A couple’s sexual relationship ebbs and flows over time. Some periods are hot and heavy while others are less active; this is normal. If you have gone from having regular sexual encounters to zero or are having a severe uptick in activity (to the point of excess) this could indicate a problem.

12. Molehills become mountains
Every single person has funny little things that just drive him or her crazy to the point that arguments constantly break out over them. This could be their spouse leaving clothes next to the laundry basket rather than in it, not replacing the milk when it runs out, or not loading the dishwasher “correctly.” Relationship counseling can help suss out what the real problem may be and teach a couple how to handle it.

13. Unresolved issues
These are the problems that linger on for months with no solution to be found. To a couple, it feels like these problems will just forever be a part of their relationship ‘til death parts them.

Counseling may be the answer. It may just take a fresh pair of eyes and ears to find the root of the problem and resolve it.

14. Frustration has become apathy
When an issue lingers in a relationship long enough it’s easy for a person to give up or just stop caring. Eventually the fight has gone on so long over the same things that you feel like it’s just not worth the effort anymore. Apathy is the outward manifestation that you just don’t value your marriage any more.

15. Holding a grudge
Your marriage had hit a major event at some point. It may have been an affair, a miscarriage, or some irresponsible behavior. You both claimed to have forgiven each other and moved on, but the issue keeps coming up in arguments over and over again or you still look at your spouse, silently blaming them weeks, months, or years after the problem occurred.

It’s worth it to seek out a family therapist to air the issue to and work towards a real resolution. Don’t wait too long to find help. Letting issues fester without resolution does neither spouse any good, so seek help before your relationship is on the brink.

People Also Read

Advertisement
Click to comment

You must be logged in to post a comment Login

Leave a Reply

Uplifting

School Cafeteria Worker Fired For Giving Food To Child Who Couldn’t Pay

Published

on

A New Hampshire school cafeteria worker’s act of kindness got her fired and it is causing quite a roar online. Bonnie Kimball tells the Valley News she was fired by her employer, a vendor that supplies food to the Mascoma Valley Regional High School in Canaan.

This termination came a day after she gave a student lunch, even though he couldn’t pay for it. The New Hampshire Union Leader says that Bonnie Kimball let the child take $8 worth of food on March 28, and asked him to inform his mom he needed money to pay it back.

“I quietly said, ‘Tell (your) mom you need money.” Kimball told the Valley News

Bonnie Kimball was fired by her employer for giving food to child who couldn’t pay

Bonnie Kimball was fired by her employer for giving food to child who couldn’t pay

Despite the boy paying the tab the next day on March 29, Kimball was called into one of the managers’ office who had witnessed Kimball’s act of leniency and fired her.

The food vendor explained in a letter that the district manager witnessed Kimball violating their company’s ‘cash handling procedures, the school’s charge policy and federal regulation governing free meals.’

According to Valley News, Kimball had worked for the company for five years serving lunch to the teens at Mascoma Valley Regional High, whom she called another family.

Read also: Woman Helps Homeless Man After Restaurant Kicks Him Out For Asking For Some Water

She also said that she had been following her direct supervisor’s orders to avoid causing a scene, as the company, Cafe Services, was trying to have its contract with the school district renewed.

Kimball added that she’d been told by her boss to give food to students who couldn’t pay and then tell them they needed money on their accounts.

Two of Kimball’s former coworkers resigned in protest, and reports say that students and staff at the school are now rallying around her in support.

What do you think? Was Kimball right or wrong for feeding a hungry child? Was the termination of her job even justified? Let us know what you think in the comment section below.

Continue Reading

Uplifting

Teen Leaves Prom Date In Tears By MAKING A Stunning Dress For Her, After Learning To Sew Because She Couldn’t Afford One

Published

on

Teen Leaves Prom Date In Tears By MAKING A Stunning Dress For Her, After Learning To Sew Because She Couldn't Afford One

Parker Smith, a high school junior from Pendleton, Indiana had never sewn a day in his life. However, he decided to learn how to just so he could make his prom date’s dreams of having the perfect prom dress come true.

In February, Parker’s prom date, Addi Rust , jokingly said, “Parker, why don’t you just make my prom dress!”  Fox 59 reports. This was after Addi had found the perfect dress, but realized that she could not afford it.

Much to Addi’s surprise, Parker thought about her request and ended up saying, “You know what, I think I could actually make your prom dress.”

Parker Smith, a high school junior from Pendleton, Indiana had never sewn a day in his life. However, he decided to learn how to just so he could make his prom date’s dreams of having the perfect prom dress come true.

Parker Smith, a high school junior from Pendleton, Indiana had never sewn a day in his life. However, he decided to learn how to just so he could make his prom date’s dreams of having the perfect prom dress come true.

For the following few months, Parker focused on teaching himself how to sew and asked for tips from his grandmother on how to make the perfect dress.

There were instances where Parker found himself making sections of the dress multiple times just to make them perfect. “I’m such a perfectionist that I was up adding more stones to the dress even the night before prom.” he said.

Read also: Passenger Snaps Photo of Mother-Daughter Pilot Team That Went Viral

The result of his efforts was a stunning blue gown that Addi could twirl around in as she attended prom with Parker.

Through every step of making the dress, Addi knew what the dress looked like, however, she could not help but cry when she saw the finished product!

The result of his efforts was a stunning blue gown that Addi could twirl around in as she attended prom with Parker.

The result of his efforts was a stunning blue gown that Addi could twirl around in as she attended prom with Parker.

“Taking a minute to brag on this man because I think this is the coolest thing that I’ve ever been a part of,” Addi wrote online. “Parker MADE my prom dress. Straight from scratch did the whole thing and I am still speechless. I’m so lucky to have him as my best friend!”

“Quite a journey, but the first thing I’ve ever sewn (a prom dress) has been finished, just in time for the ball. Not only did I get the honor of being the Prince Charming to the beautiful @AddiRust, but her fairy godmother as well, haha! I’m so thankful for her. (From scratch)” Parker tweeted on his page.

 The whole experience has now inspired Parker to create more dresses from scratch.


The whole experience has now inspired Parker to create more dresses from scratch.

The whole experience has now inspired Parker to create more dresses from scratch.  We think that Parker will have an incredible career in the fashion world and Addi really is lucky to have a friend like him!

Continue Reading

Uplifting

Passenger Snaps Photo of Mother-Daughter Pilot Team That Went Viral

Published

on

Passenger Snaps Photo of Mother-Daughter Pilot Team That Went Viral

Recently, a passenger snapped a photo of a mother-daughter pilot team on his flight from Los Angeles to Atlanta and it is melting hearts across the world.

The two pilots, Captain Wendy Rexon and her daughter first officer Kelly Rexon, were in the cockpit of a Delta Boeing 757 when a passenger asked to take their picture.

That passenger was Dr. John Watret, the chancellor of Embry-Riddle Aeronautical University. Dr. Watret told the Embry-Riddle Newsroom that he learned that his flight crew were a family affair after overhearing a mom asking a flight attendant if her two kids could go look at the flight deck.

Recently, a passenger snapped a photo of a mother-daughter pilot team on his flight from Los Angeles to Atlanta and it is melting hearts across the world.

Recently, a passenger snapped a photo of a mother-daughter pilot team on his flight from Los Angeles to Atlanta and it is melting hearts across the world.

“The flight attendant said they could – and that they would be surprised.” Watret recalled.

Indeed, when the family returned to their seats, Watret said he overheard them talking about the mother and daughter pilots who were flying the plane. “I thought that was amazing, I was in awe. I asked if I could visit them, too.” Watret said.

After taking their picture, Watret posted the photo on his twitter account captioning it, “Just flew from LAX to ATL on Delta piloted by this mother daughter flight crew. Great flight. Inspiring for you women.”

Read also: Man Hears Two Soldiers Whispering On The Plane, And Runs Immediately To Tell The Flight Attendant

The post quickly went viral, with people commenting on the photo and saying how incredible it was to see the mother-daughter pair working together.

“How about a big congratulations for a mother-daughter team,” said someone online. “That’s a great accomplishment!”

“I think it’s inspiring for everyone because it’s not every time you see parents and their offspring doing great things together.” wrote another.

“That is just the most amazing, wonderful news ever-seriously. My mother and I would never have flown together as crew. We couldn’t even agree on having the radio on/off in the car!” Another person added.

The official Delta Twitter account joined in, too, tweeting, ‘Family flight crew goals!’

As it turns out, Captain Wendy and Kelly Rexon aren’t the only people in their family who are pilots! Wendy’s father is a retired pilot, her husband is currently a pilot with American Airlines, and her other daughter is a pilot as well.

Dr. Watret was elated to see that his post of the mother-daughter pilot team went viral particularly for the attention that it brought to women working in the aeronautical industry, as he works in a university that is focused on creating more opportunities for women in the world of aviation.

Continue Reading

Trending